It's a Wednesday night and you're fresh from a coffee date that you feel went pretty good. She laughed at your weak impression of Elvis, she shared her back-story without boring you and what was to be an hour meeting became two.
When it was time to say goodbye out on the street you warmly hugged and agreed you'd both like to see each other again.
So now you sit on the couch with the phone in your hand staring at her number you have on speed dial.
There's a pang of anxiety that hits as you press "Dial"...It rings...and rings...Damn! It's voice mail. You hear her pleasant voice on the recorded message and it takes you back to seeing her across the table. You smile. Then you hear the tone as your mind scrambles for something clever and witty to say.
Are there aspects of your life where it feels like you are getting your ass kicked? Has life got you by the short ones and it feels like you're sinking in the muck pretty fast?
Is that what it feels like when you look at your bank balance, empty pillow where your beloved use to sleep, or the real reality of your business or career?
So many good people are dealing with a host of seemingly insurmountable difficulties that it often paralyses them into inaction, anxiety and depression. Some will take it a step further and exacerbate the situation by attempting to bury their pain with alcohol, drugs and medication.
I see and here about it in my coaching practice and in my seminars all the time. Men in particular have a very hard time getting real with their situation and actually ask...
I presented at The Remarkable Man Project last week about Charisma, Charm and Swagger. However, as much as it sounds like it's about dating and romance it was a much deeper dive into the inner game of "Being A Man". See the video below.
The first step to bringing more charisma and swagger into your life is to Let go of the stories you hang on to. What I mean is, you have a story, if not a few that keeps you playing small, limiting your growth, or preventing you from living the life you long to have.
As well, "Be A Man" has itself congured up a number of diverse perspectives. Many of them derogitory. What happened? We need to change the story.
We need to bring honour, integrity, charisma and inner strength into what it means to be a man.
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