Guys, you'll want to pay attention as you read this post.
It covers some very true and obvious challenges that both men and women are dealing with...Especially in today's infamous dating landscape.
Whether you are single, dating or in a long term relationship, never take your foot of the gas...here's why:
I had the opportunity to sit with a dear and platonic friend that I hold in high regard. She's a women's coach and dating expert. So she had much to share about her real-world observations.
We sat at the corner of the bar in a very popular and busy chain restaurant. It was the start of "Happy Hour" and the suits were pouring in to enjoy a drink with colleagues, for camaraderie and some came in for the feigned attention of the very attractive bar staff.
Sex and intimacy.
They are one of the top prime directives in a relationship. It is what makes us come alive, feel connected and powerfully bonded with our beloved.
Sex and intimacy are a big part of a man's sense of masculinity and feeling like a man.
Ask a women, how important sex chemistry is and she too will agree it is a right near the top of "must haves" in a relationship.
With that you would think couples are nocking boots every night!
Sadly, that is not the case at all.
If you are frustrated, feeling rejected and not as intimate with your partner as you would like to be, there are some shocking statistics that prove you are not alone.
I see this a lot in my coaching practice, in my audience and the groups I run - There's a huge lack of sex and intimacy in...
At some point in every man's life he will encounter a damsel in distress. For most guys it's his natural instinct to come to her aid and save the day.
The challenges that she may be facing could be from having car trouble to trying to leave and abusive unloving relationship. Upon seeing or hearing this he'll come into the situation with gallantry, confidence and a sense of perfection unmatched by mortal men.
On the surface this sounds really great and has that romantic touch that has women swooning and men saying, "Well played Sir!"
However, you have to be careful here. Rarely are these scenarios quite like they seem. Especially when we move into the realm of relationships.
You see I was a card carrying "rescuer" most of my adult life. Yes, indeed! I would manifest women that had...
The Not So Pretty Reality About Today's Relationship Landscape.
I listened in amazement how this very successful power-woman lamented about how she was having such a hard time attracting and keeping a man.
She confessed that her Type A personality would often undermine her suitor's good intentions with a "better" idea of her own. She's a very attractive woman and dresses in the 9's. Yet she is a great example of a woman that is fully in her masculine energy. So much so that men do not know how to show up for her.
Most of the men think that she's quite a prize and would love to be in a relationship with a woman of her calibre.
But here's where it all falls apart. Too many men "front load" their masculine strength and charisma with her. In other words they put on a mask or false front of...
It's a Wednesday night and you're fresh from a coffee date that you feel went pretty good. She laughed at your weak impression of Elvis, she shared her back-story without boring you and what was to be an hour meeting became two.
When it was time to say goodbye out on the street you warmly hugged and agreed you'd both like to see each other again.
So now you sit on the couch with the phone in your hand staring at her number you have on speed dial.
There's a pang of anxiety that hits as you press "Dial"...It rings...and rings...Damn! It's voice mail. You hear her pleasant voice on the recorded message and it takes you back to seeing her across the table. You smile. Then you hear the tone as your mind scrambles for something clever and witty to say.
We are half way through The Biggest Outdoor Show On Earth. Also known as the Calgary Stampede. For those of you that have never heard of it or have never experienced it...it is truly something to behold.
When I was a newbie to the Stampede many years ago, I thought it would be just like any other annual civic event. You know...an area of the city that has a dedicated fairground and event area where the festival takes place. Boy was I wrong!
Calgary...and I mean the whole city of over a million...turns into a ten-day party of celebration, excess and hedonism all wrapped up in a country and western theme.
Sure there's the world's largest rodeo and the city does a great job in promoting it as a family friendly event, but if you've been here you soon realise that the real event(s) are wh...
It does not matter how old you are or how much experience you might have. The reality is, if you are a man, you know things might be a little "off" when it comes to feeling like a man. Maybe you once had it, maybe you never really owned it, but at some level you know something is not quite right.
In today's world there are very few examples of men truly being manly! Relax, I am not talking about some masogenistic douche baggery here. I'm talking about that feeling you have when you truly feel alive, verile, and confident. It's in those moments when you have that certain swagger that both men and women notice and are attracted to.
Those moments are becoming fewer and far between for the average man. The truth is, most men have lost their fire.