We had an interesting discussion at The Remarkable Man Project Calgary last night.
It was about the idea of finding balance in a man's life. Balance, for most people sounds like a fantastic place to be.
Most people have this sunshine and skittles idea of what a life in balance is all about.
In truth balance is not where you want to be. Have you ever seen a scale perfectly balanced? It does not move!
Balance has no movement, no growth, no challenges to improve.
At best, balance might be a temporary state to achieve, but you'll soon find boredom, complacency and stagnation.
Balance in your relationship soon becomes a score card. If I do this for her, therefore I should get this in return. Ah balance is maintained. As soon as the balance is tipped toward one partner's efforts, the truth...
Have you ever had one of those days where it takes a complete left-turn from what you anticipated?
Ever experience a "sure thing" only to have it all unravel at the 11th hour?
Do you ever feel you are a pawn in some sick and messed up game meant to torment and keep you down?
Are you feeling like sometimes your best laid plans go sideways without any rhyme or reason and you're left wondering "What The F*@k is going on?!"
Do you feel the Universe/God/Source is testing you beyond your limits of what's fair?
Today as I write this post, I am sitting in on of my favourite coffee shops in beautiful Vancouver. It's a gorgeous unseasonably warm spring day and the street is alive with people enjoying a stroll, run or trip to the market.
The Not So Pretty Reality About Today's Relationship Landscape.
I listened in amazement how this very successful power-woman lamented about how she was having such a hard time attracting and keeping a man.
She confessed that her Type A personality would often undermine her suitor's good intentions with a "better" idea of her own. She's a very attractive woman and dresses in the 9's. Yet she is a great example of a woman that is fully in her masculine energy. So much so that men do not know how to show up for her.
Most of the men think that she's quite a prize and would love to be in a relationship with a woman of her calibre.
But here's where it all falls apart. Too many men "front load" their masculine strength and charisma with her. In other words they put on a mask or false front of...
It's a Wednesday night and you're fresh from a coffee date that you feel went pretty good. She laughed at your weak impression of Elvis, she shared her back-story without boring you and what was to be an hour meeting became two.
When it was time to say goodbye out on the street you warmly hugged and agreed you'd both like to see each other again.
So now you sit on the couch with the phone in your hand staring at her number you have on speed dial.
There's a pang of anxiety that hits as you press "Dial"...It rings...and rings...Damn! It's voice mail. You hear her pleasant voice on the recorded message and it takes you back to seeing her across the table. You smile. Then you hear the tone as your mind scrambles for something clever and witty to say.
I presented at The Remarkable Man Project last week about Charisma, Charm and Swagger. However, as much as it sounds like it's about dating and romance it was a much deeper dive into the inner game of "Being A Man". See the video below.
The first step to bringing more charisma and swagger into your life is to Let go of the stories you hang on to. What I mean is, you have a story, if not a few that keeps you playing small, limiting your growth, or preventing you from living the life you long to have.
As well, "Be A Man" has itself congured up a number of diverse perspectives. Many of them derogitory. What happened? We need to change the story.
We need to bring honour, integrity, charisma and inner strength into what it means to be a man.
Enjoy the video and please comment, "Like" and share...
We are half way through The Biggest Outdoor Show On Earth. Also known as the Calgary Stampede. For those of you that have never heard of it or have never experienced it...it is truly something to behold.
When I was a newbie to the Stampede many years ago, I thought it would be just like any other annual civic event. You know...an area of the city that has a dedicated fairground and event area where the festival takes place. Boy was I wrong!
Calgary...and I mean the whole city of over a million...turns into a ten-day party of celebration, excess and hedonism all wrapped up in a country and western theme.
Sure there's the world's largest rodeo and the city does a great job in promoting it as a family friendly event, but if you've been here you soon realise that the real event(s) are wh...
It does not matter how old you are or how much experience you might have. The reality is, if you are a man, you know things might be a little "off" when it comes to feeling like a man. Maybe you once had it, maybe you never really owned it, but at some level you know something is not quite right.
In today's world there are very few examples of men truly being manly! Relax, I am not talking about some masogenistic douche baggery here. I'm talking about that feeling you have when you truly feel alive, verile, and confident. It's in those moments when you have that certain swagger that both men and women notice and are attracted to.
Those moments are becoming fewer and far between for the average man. The truth is, most men have lost their fire.