March 1, 2018

The Elephant In The Room. A Must Read For Men.

How often have you felt out of sorts, not yourself and just unable to truly connect with your woman?

Do you argue with her about shit that just keeps piling up? Does it feel like the "Make up" moments are just desperate truces for a bit of peace before the next round?

For most men in this situation I am going to blow your hair back (if you still have it) about a reality you might be blind to seeing but you feel its truth.

I too fell into behaviour patterns in relationships that were bull-headed, frustrating and childish. Never figuring out the answers she was looking for or being able to solve the seemingly dastardly riddle that women seem to be for so many men.

In truth, the reason you feel disconnected, unable to get away from the constant naggin...

October 27, 2017

So many men today are living two lives.

The one where they have success, status and accomplishment, and then there's the one where they are literally bankrupt in every other area of their lives.

I have met so many successful men that have everything anyone could possibly want.

They have the homes, the cars, the vacations and the parties that prove that the good life is a reality for so many.

Yet behind the smiles, the clinking of the glasses and the fat bank account lies the truth.

Many are about to go through a divorce, they are having affairs, they don't see their kids, or their kid(s) are in trouble. They have very few "real" friends and they live in a facade that's hard to maintain.

Alcohol, drugs, pharmaceuticals and sex are the addictions and distractions many are dealing with behind the m...

April 6, 2017

I just had a great chat with a woman about how her 28 year old son is getting a divorce because he was...wait for it...too nice!
 

That's right! Too nice!


That sounds on the surface like he married a self serving and entitled bitch.

 
But in truth this is happening in relationships everywhere.
"Nice guys" don't cut it in relationship dynamics.


Hang on...of course you are nice and have a good soul, but when it becomes all of who you are...it dos not work the way you think.

Too nice maybe a sign that you have become weak, indecisive and needy.


You take on more feminine energy than the relationship can sustain.


You need validation and seek it through being nice. It does not come from a place of power.


Guys that are in this headspace get wired that being nice and a people pleaser will make the r...

December 1, 2016

We had an interesting discussion at The Remarkable Man Project Calgary last night. 
It was about the idea of finding balance in a man's life. Balance, for most people sounds like a fantastic place to be.


Most people have this sunshine and skittles idea of what a life in balance is all about.
In truth balance is not where you want to be. Have you ever seen a scale perfectly balanced? It does not move!


Balance has no movement, no growth, no challenges to improve. 


At best, balance might be a temporary state to achieve, but you'll soon find boredom, complacency and stagnation.

Balance in your relationship soon becomes a score card. If I do this for her, therefore I should get this in return. Ah balance is maintained. As soon as the balance is tipped toward one partner's efforts, the truth...

November 24, 2016

How often have you allowed your setbacks to paralyze you from moving forward?

How many times have you felt powerless from the crap life tends to throw at you?

I was tested over the last week with a very severe leg injury. I had damaged my ligaments, tendons and muscles in the inner hip and pelvis reason so badly that I was mobilized with a kind of pain that felt like being electrocuted with every breathe I took and every move I made!

I couldn't sleep for 5 days as no position would settle it down or give me comfort. 

I couldn't do any amount of work as focus and concentration was impossible. Getting out to meet clients just wasn't going to happen.

I got all up in my stuff about the "What ifs" as I waited to get the x-rays and treatment.

So this situation forced me to explore the areas of my...

November 16, 2016

Why do your romantic relationships always tend to end up the same way?

Why do you manifest partners that treat you the way they do?

A lot of our relational wounds stem from our parents and family dynamic as we grew up. Yes, those unconscious programs are often the root of why your relationships today end up the way they do.

One of the fastest ways to end the cycle is to heal the relationship with your parents and/or siblings. Whoa! (record scratch)Does the thought of that brings up all kinds of resistance?...If it does...That's good!!

On the other side of your fear is your freedom.

Here's the rub. Your familial relationships are actually easier to fix than you think. The reason is because unlike romantic relationships the foundation is unconditional love. We don't have a sexual energy agenda at...

October 24, 2016

"Yes Dear."

"No, you pick the movie Sweetie." 

"What ever restaurant you want Hon I'm fine with that."
"No, I'll stay home and be with you...the guys can go on without me."

If this sounds like you in your relationship or in your dating world you might as well be saying,

"Hey, please Baby..I need your approval and attention. I'll do anything to please YOU… if you’ll just give me your time, attention and approval."

Yuck!! I think I threw up in my mouth a little. I'm sure there's a few ladies feeling like that too!

There's a growing trend occurring and I'm seeing it more and more in my coaching practice, from my peers and from the feedback I get from my followers and fans. Too many men are playing small!

Playing small can show up in a number of ways. He can appear to be a wuss, a wimp, weak and need...

July 6, 2016

Have you ever wondered why your relationships have a pattern or familiarity to them?

Have you ever contemplated why you excel in curtain areas of your life, but completely suck in others?

Do you ever get frustrated as to why you show up in conflict or stressful situations the way you do?

Have you ever been pissed off by the way you sabotage the things that matter most to you? Yet can't figure out why?

These are indeed questions of the ages. 

So many men are often at a total loss as to why they behave the way they do. 

Yet, instead of truly seeking answers and getting to the root, most end up suffering in quiet desperation.

They get diagnosed and labeled with depression, anxiety and host of other multi-syllable disorders to get them hooked on a host of prescription drugs to numb and dumb them down...

June 27, 2016

As a man, you have experienced them most of your adult life. You have most likely passed a few, but sadly you have probably failed more times than you'll ever admit to your crew.

It's the stuff of lore layered thick on the hallowed halls of yacht clubs to the sports bars and pubs around the world.

They spawn countless empty glasses, knowing nods of "I hear you Bro." and comforting pats on the back as men have lamented for eons about how confounded, confused and frustrated they are by them.

We're talking about the stealthy, clever and seemingly diabolical...Yes the dreaded "Shit Test".

You know...the tests women give to men to see if he's worthy of her affections, sex and sanity in the relationship or courting process.

Yes, the "Shit test". It's a real name for a...

May 13, 2016

I had an interesting dilemma put forth to me by a client that has been in a new relationship for about two months. 

 

She is all he's ever wanted: she's cute, she's fun, she's got quirky sense of humour and she's got a penchant for the unpredictable. One of those things just happens to be kissing passionately any time, any where. She loves PDA - public displays of affection.

 

For most guys this sounds like a great scenario to be in. I mean, Damn! That's kinda hot!

But this is not his reality nor his brand of PDA because he is more reserved. He loves the passion between them but as long as it is at home or somewhere private.

 

He is having a hard time with telling her that it's not appropriate at restaurants, gatherings with friends or out in public where people could be offended.

 

He ad...

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