July 11, 2018

 I had the pleasure of speaking at a women's group a couple weeks ago. The women that attended would be considered to be successful, empowered and awake.

I also thought there might be a bit of a feminist stance as well.

Not so.

The women were really open and receptive to my talk.

In fact, I had a few in tears.

I give both women and men the truth about what's happening in the live's of men behind the masks.

In a lot of ways I help women to see her man with new eyes for the first time.

What came up in conversation afterward was not surprising.

Most of the women are at their wits end about how to get their husband/boyfriend/life-mate to own his emotions. To step up and do some real work on himself and the relationship.

Most men want to learn, grow and understand their behaviours that F'up hi...

January 6, 2018

"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.

You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward.

That’s how winning is done!

Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth.

But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!"  

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April 6, 2017

I just had a great chat with a woman about how her 28 year old son is getting a divorce because he was...wait for it...too nice!
 

That's right! Too nice!


That sounds on the surface like he married a self serving and entitled bitch.

 
But in truth this is happening in relationships everywhere.
"Nice guys" don't cut it in relationship dynamics.


Hang on...of course you are nice and have a good soul, but when it becomes all of who you are...it dos not work the way you think.

Too nice maybe a sign that you have become weak, indecisive and needy.


You take on more feminine energy than the relationship can sustain.


You need validation and seek it through being nice. It does not come from a place of power.


Guys that are in this headspace get wired that being nice and a people pleaser will make the r...

December 15, 2016

Yesterday a father in his mid 40's and his 18 year old son were arrested for senselessly beating an innocent man in a ridiculous case of road rage.

After pretty much forcing a man's work van off the road and then dragging him out of his van, they proceeded to beat him until witnesses intervened. It could have been much worse.


They still couldn't get the reason for the attack.

 
The cowards fled and were later picked up by police at their home.

My question is: What place does a man have to come from where he shows his son this is how it's done?

What major malfunction does this kid already have engrained in his head about life as he starts his journey as a man in this world? I can't imagine the environment and head space in which these two men exist in.

As much as their actions are deplorable and...

June 5, 2016

 So, You are in a relationship or you're a few dates in to something good.

 

Everything's going great!

 

The sex is great, you spoil her with fun events, your wit and charm. You seem to have a lot going on and all seems great!

 

Or is it?

 

Let me share an example for you. 

 

From most perspectives this couple I know is the epitome of the perfect power couple. They are both ridiculously good looking and have everything anyone could ever want in life.

 

Yes, they have the dream house, the beach house, the cars and three awesome kids too!

 

This is the kind of relationship most people brag about or aspire to.

 

Individually, he's on fire and has been a successful business owner for a number of years. His family is well respected and he's known as a no-nonsense, get-it-done kin...

May 2, 2016

 Have you ever had one of those days where it takes a complete left-turn from what you anticipated? 

 

Ever experience a "sure thing" only to have it all unravel at the 11th hour?

Do you ever feel you are a pawn in some sick and messed up game meant to torment and keep you down?

 

Are you feeling like sometimes your best laid plans go sideways without any rhyme or reason and you're left wondering "What The F*@k is going on?!" 

 

Do you feel the Universe/God/Source is testing you beyond your limits of what's fair?

 

Today as I write this post, I am sitting in on of my favourite coffee shops in beautiful Vancouver. It's a gorgeous unseasonably warm spring day and the street is alive with people enjoying a stroll, run or trip to the market.

 

However, as idylic as this day...

 So another round of layoffs hits and you find yourself and your team are next on the chopping block. The package is fair but far from enough given the circumstances you now find yourself in.

 

Reality hits in and you realize the market is not actually clamouring for your particular set of skills or expertise. In fact, guys like you are a dime a dozen in a market that's not hiring.

 

You've put five, ten, fifteen years or more into your career. The company was good to you, you enjoyed your work and the culture was one you felt at home in. Outside of your intimate relationships, your career defined who you were in a big way.

 

I can relate. Several years ago I had created a business from the ground up with a tremendous amount of enthusiasm and excitement. We were about to take the world by s...

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