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Why The No-Contact Rule Might Save Your Relationship

Are you in a situation where you just can't seem to do anything right in your relationship?

Does it feel like you are walking on egg shells?

Are you going weeks if not months without passion and great sex?

If you are in a relationship and this has been your story then you may be in more of a bind than you realize.

A lot of men are dealing with a lacklustre and unfulfilling relationship because of how HE is showing up or has shown up in the relationship.

I'm not throwing my brothers under the bus here, but you have to understand the role you played in making this situation the way it is.

The big sticking point is that you love her and do not want to leave. If you could only change and work on your stuff then things would get better...Right?

Sadly, that's a great thought but does not have a lot of reality in it.

Very few men can reinvent themselves and become the champion he wants to be for her and the man she desperately craves him to be.

There are many reasons for why a man's efforts to change my not work and a few of them are:

  • Most guys don't take their personal growth and self development seriously

  • Men will rarely initiate the need to take action on their relationship. It's usually because she's asked him to.

  • She can't get past the image of the man she knows you to be.

  • The new man you want to be can feel inauthentic

  • You aren't owning the new man you want to be

  • You are doing it with an agenda...Sex

If your relationship is at a place where you don't know if you two will make it, there is one last thing you can try that just might be the saving grace you are looking for:

The No-Contact Rule

It takes a very strong man with a deep desire to reinvent yourself in order to change the situation for the no-contact rule to work.

You may have to move out, stay with friends or family or go on a sabbatical for 30 days or more.

You have to work on yourself without the distraction and the hidden agendas that may be real or imagined.

This means no phone calls, text messages, emails or personal visits.

Any contact must be made through a 3rd party and only if it is vital or in an emergency.

In truth, time is the answer. Only after a spell can she actually notice real change in you.

It also gives you both time to miss each other and realize the value you both have for each other.

The self-reflection you do may also guide you towards whether or not the relationship is worth saving.

I highly recommend that you get coaching in this area to help facilitate the process as it is very difficult for couples to do it on their own.

Watch the video and consider if the No-Contact Rule might be a benefit for you and your relationship.

Remember, You are not alone on the journey...I've got your back!

Dwayne Klassen


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